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A Letter from One Mother to Another

Dear Irresponsible Migrant Mother,

What exactly were you thinking when you woke your children in the dead of the  night, picking up the baby still asleep?  Don’t you know how important it is for children to get enough sleep? They’ll be cranky during the day if they don’t sleep enough.  They won’t develop properly if you keep doing this.  Children need routine.  That baby you’re holding needs to be warm and comfortable, cocooned and safe, like a tiny bud, waiting to bloom in the morning. Those toddlers won’t be able to walk the miles you want them to in the black night in worn out shoes without a good night’s sleep.

What’s that? Speak up.  You had to travel at night? It was safer? It was quieter? There was less chance of being discovered? Less chance of being caught if it was dark and the threat that hung over you was asleep.  I don’t know about that; I slept in my own bed last night, with my baby and my husband.

But you made them walk for miles before you reached the first border.  Those children will be shattered.  They will be hungry.  You gave them the last food you had when you got into the truck.  You should have been more careful with your food and drink, there was always a chance it would run out before you got where you needed to go.  Don’t you know, children need nutritious meals and snacks throughout the day if they are to be healthy and develop into healthy, intelligent adults? Those chocolate bars you saved are not going to be sufficiently nutritious as a meal in the morning.

What’s that you say? You saved them because you will need to keep the children quiet when you get into the next truck? You’ll need to stop them from crying from hunger pangs as you don’t want to be caught? You grabbed whatever you could when the last bomb went off on your street? What else were you supposed to do, there was no other food? They came for your husband? I wouldn’t know about that; we had chilli con carne with boiled rice last night.  We had lots leftover so I put them in the fridge for today for when my husband gets back from work.

You didn’t even pack any toys for them.  Your little boy has his teddy and the baby has her blanket, but don’t you think they will need more stimulation?  Children need a variety of stimuli to help them learn through play.  They don’t need expensive electronic toys, but they definitely need more than what you brought with you.  They need to be kept engaged and stimulated to help them to develop cognitively.  They need to have fun, after all they’re children. You’ll have to make do with talking to them lots instead and try to increase their vocabulary on the journey; perhaps make up some games and songs to make it more fun.

Sorry, speak up? It was more important to grab food and supplies than toys?  You forgot in your haste? You’re embarrassed to tell me these are all the toys that your children have since your family home was destroyed?  You can’t talk to them, you have to keep them quiet? The group you’re with says it’s safer to travel in silence, especially when the truck gets checked at the border? Especially when you board a precariously balanced boat in the middle of the night? Especially when you’re trying to sneak under a fence, through razor sharp wire? What are you supposed to do to keep your children happy? You want to turn it all into a game but you don’t know how?  I really can’t help you there I’m afraid; you see, my child has lots of toys, plenty of educational materials and cuddly animals, but she also plays with my things; often I sit and play with her and we make up songs and stories.  I’d like to believe she’s quite happy playing with me; I have lots of imagination sat on the floor of our living room.

Whatever were you thinking? That truck doesn’t seem very safe.  There seem to be an awful lot of people in there. It’ll be terribly dark with the doors closed. The blackness might engulf you all, opening up and swallowing your children in its toothless ebony mouth.  What were you thinking? That dinghy doesn’t look very stable, especially in the ocean.  And those life jackets on the children won’t stay inflated for long.  The water seems treacherous and icy, lapping greedily at the sides of your tiny vessel.  It’s biding its time, waiting for you, wanting you; you can see it licking its lips, licking the sides of your inflatable hotel, waiting for a taste. What exactly were you thinking? There is no shelter beyond that barbed wire; it’s just an open field.  It’s just more running, picking up the children, running, dragging them with you, running.  The border guards pushing you back with their riot shields won’t know about your children underfoot; they won’t know about the baby as she clings to you, screaming.  What were you thinking?

What are you saying? I can’t hear you, you’ll have to speak up.  You didn’t know what else to do? You were desperate? It wasn’t safe where you were? The threat of death clung to you all, threatening to snatch you, so you grabbed whatever was precious and ran? It wasn’t safe so you ran? It wasn’t safe on land so you took to a cramped truck, an open field, a tiny boat balanced precariously on a greedy ocean? I wouldn’t know about any of that; you see, my child is napping while I type this letter to you, on the sofa, next to me, perfectly safe.  I might even cover her with her blanket to make her more comfortable.

You really must speak up, I’m struggling to hear you.  I’m struggling to hear you through the blackness of that truck, through the gaping hole of that ebony mouth that seems to have swallowed you.  I can’t quite make out what you’re saying while you are pushed against that riot shield, the crowd surging like a tide behind you, forcing you forward though you don’t want it, squeezing your children.  I’m straining to hear you from the salivating lips of that greedy ocean, licking you up, like a gourmet meal, spitting you out.

There you are: washed up on the shore, wet and bloated. There are your children peacefully blue from the icy lips of the water.  I can’t hear you, but there you all are.

271 Comments

  1. really powerful — thank you for this

  2. Nice stuff, keep up the work!

  3. I feel so bad for all of those people who have to exactly as you described. We are lucky tone born in a place where we are safe for the most part.

  4. Wow. Thank you for raising your voice and speaking for those who can’t be heard.

  5. I have so often thought about how my circumstances allow me to provide for my child in a way that others are not able. And I wonder to what extremes I would go if needed to protect my child. Or how I would feel if there was no way to keep her safe or fed. Because mothers all around the world love their children the exact same way I love mine. But things aren’t as simple for them as they are for me. And I begin can’t imagine their struggles. This was so powerful.

  6. Reading this made me sad..

  7. This gave me chills, very well done

  8. And I thought I had bigger problems…!!!

  9. Reblogged this on SENSITIVE Journalist and commented:
    I loved this post, so I am reposting it. We always feel like the world is conspiring against us when we have to go through slightest of the hurdles. But we never know that in the other part of the world there might be people going through much life threatening problems than us.

  10. Reblogged this on Strictly Becca and commented:
    I’ve Blogged this post today. I think you will all know why & appreciate it.

  11. It is not enough to read and say nice post 🙂 It is not enough to watch the televisions and shake our heads in dismay and wonder. Where has humanity gone to? What is happening to us that hearts harden to the cries of unfortunate humans who didn’t bargain for what they are receiving. Who didn’t do anything to earn their hard luck. Where are the World Leaders? This situation is ghastly and a very sorry sight. Let each of us never fail to appreciate the lottery that we won by just being in a safer environment with food to eat. Very well said. Permission to reblog.

  12. Reblogged this on a cooking pot and twistedtales and commented:
    May we pause to think about refugees who are presently in precarious situations that are not of their own making.

  13. Reblogged this post on http://www.strictly-becca.com I think it’s fantastic.
    Although when I first started reading it I thought “how horrible of you to say this” (admittedly I sometimes have blonde moments) chilling piece though, really well done xx

  14. Very powerful writing, wow

  15. Absolutely beautiful! 🙂

  16. I love this post! Well done!!!

  17. Actually very true..there so much in the world..this post really says alot deeper.. 🙂

  18. What?

    What does this mean?

    What is your intention?

    You don’t like black people and you can’t hear them?

    You are writing satire to highlight what’s happening in Hungary?

    I get to pick sides because you left it open and am supposed to say great job and good writing?

    Pick a side of the fence, man. This sucks.

  19. This is so sad. I was heart broken after reading it. I too will share this post if you don’t mind. It was beautifully written & definitely got your point across. ❤

  20. Absolutely so heartbreakingly true. It is the most God awful news I have ever had to witness. I lost my little boy last year, but I know that I would made the same decision as those parents, to keep your children safe, they only want the best for them as we do, they love them like we do ours. Perfectly written, I am ashamed to be a part of a world that allows this to happen.

  21. I understand what you’re writing but whats the purpose? This wasn’t a very hopeful story. I live in San Diego and here we call everyone citizens. When they respect and work in the country we all call home, they are one of us. I can only imagine the hardships of a person who had to leave the comfort of home and endure a journey into the unknown.

  22. This is so sad. What has the world come too when innocent people are killed and treated so inhumanely. May faith be with all to keep you strong and safe. X

  23. this make me cry 🙁

  24. I’m wondering the same: where is the protection from our world leaders, is there something they aren’t telling us? Or is it humanity and unsupportive neighbors who will not detach from their sheltered worlds to help guide the lost souls to being found…
    Are you insinuating they have a better option to life, because for most America provides that glisten of hope.

    Well written and thought provoking!

  25. I’m not sure I quite understand your style of writing? It appears you are trying to make a point that while many are in the comforts of their homes without facing war, being refugee’s, seeing their loved ones killed etc.. they are all alone? You are speaking of their horrid journey’s right now in Hungary eg & how they are having to walk to Austria? I was a bit lost? I would have loved the last paragraph to end with ‘many of of hear you, we just aren’t there to help.’ or something of that nature. I sit here in the US watching this unfold on the news, and ask myself what has happened to humanity? I ask myself how any country that is able to help others could allow these war struck families to suffer even more. I sit here in my home wishing I could offer them a bed, because I would if I could! I watch the news and my heart is literally breaking. We are all inhabitants of planet earth and each of us has the same basic needs, including comfort and safety. My heart not only hears their cries, it feels their wounds. I’m praying for them!

  26. What is the point here? I think America is more awake than you realize. We are waiting for the leaders to act, that is why they are elected, to do what we would all like to do … Correct the situation. I understand your sarcasm n so glad you wrote this. I suppose we need to wake more of us up!

  27. This is heart breaking 🙁 I wonder if you’d mind checking out my blog? X

  28. Its spicy how you written this. I understanding you. But i also think you’ll never be able to feel how it is when there is no other solution. Maybe the walking and waking up during the night is not even close to the problem of not feeling save in your country, in your home/bed for you and your love ones. They ‘Just’ wanted to feel safe….

  29. An unasked for tragedy of which we are all victims, defined by how we express ourselves on the subject, the truth obscured by creative semantics

  30. While the work is nice I’m not sure I agree with some of the context used, you’re not necessarily sympathising with them as you are pointing out how privileged you are or pointing out the mother’s fault (please correct me if I am wrong )

  31. This is a response to those who have criticised refugees for leaving their war torn countries and – as some armchair commentators have claimed – putting their children in danger by undertaking such perilous journies. The point is that the danger behind them is so great that they are forced into such a position and that it’s easy for us to criticise from the safety of our vantage point and without any empathy for what they’re going through.

  32. As stated above, this is a response to those who have criticised refugees for leaving their war torn countries and – as some armchair commentators have claimed – putting their children in danger by undertaking such perilous journies. The point is that the danger behind them is so great that they are forced into such a position and that it’s easy for us to criticise from the safety of our vantage point and without any empathy for what they’re going through.

    It’s not about hope, it’s about trying to bring home the reality of a horrific Catch-22 situation to those who see refugees as subhuman or unworthy of help. Also worth noting, the blogger is from the UK and the post is written from that perspective.

  33. The blogger is from the UK. This is written from that perspective, not a U.S.-centric one.

  34. Wow this is amazing hoping to get some inspiration from you

  35. I’d like to offer a correction – a mistake that you are not alone in making since journalists around the world are making the same mistake. The people you write of are not migrants: “Migrants choose to move not because of a direct threat of persecution or death, but mainly to improve their lives by finding work, or in some cases for education, family reunion, or other reasons. Unlike refugees who cannot safely return home, migrants face no such impediment to return. If they choose to return home, they will continue to receive the protection of their government.”
    “Refugees are persons fleeing armed conflict or persecution.”
    UNHCR definitions. Let’s not diminish what these people are up against.

  36. :”(
    very nicely written

  37. That ending just sent CHILLS down me spine

  38. “Legal” immigration is another word for legalized “slavery”. Earlier they brought slaves from africa to do their manual hard work, now they get professionals from Asia to do the same by dangling a carrot of legal immigration in front of them!

  39. I burst into tears when I saw the picture of the little boy washed up on the shore – I have a little boy the same age and it just broke my heart when this picture took me by surprise. I understand why you sat on the fence while writing this piece, all these people that keep saying things need to change… that goes without saying. But how?!? It’s a very difficult topic. Yes, I understand a parent’s desire to get her child to a safer country – but I also understand the need for immigration control! I just don’t know how this can be solved, all I know is that we need to find a way!

  40. I couldn’t get ur point ! But u can’t judge any one unless u r in his situation

  41. You write with such beauty and compassion. I just arrived in Belgrade, Serbia today, traveling from the USA. The bus station was a sea of all the people you described – babies lying on the family mat playing with an empty potato chip bag, mothers struggling to keep the older children amused, and fathers speaking with other fathers, perhaps planning tonight’s journey. Thank you for this. All the best, Terri Vance

  42. Look dear writer of this. Keep in mind that anyone on this planet can be at these people’s situations and unless you face what they have faced, you can’t judge someone simply because you are lucky enough not to be in their situation. Just keep that in mind. And be grateful for what you have and for what you can offer to your children rather than showing it off. Just stop a little and feel or at least try to.

  43. Sadness moment at now 🙁

  44. Absolutely powerful, thank you for sharing this in such a sensitive, yet realistic manner!

  45. Very well written! Powerful and logical!

  46. Dear, I don’t understand the real motivation of this post. Last night I was at the Keleti Station because I want to understand what is happen there. And I do. I understand all “why”s. These mothers there all want the best for their childrens. That’s why they live their home … in hurry… without thinking of the hard way that they must to do, withhout thinking to the upper needs, like toys. They just need food, water and place where they could sleep. I wish You never be in the same same situation.

  47. And why should a parent with young kids do migrate in such a situation. Too risky. Thanks for such great work.

  48. The blog is deliberately written from the vantage of privilege to show that those who are criticising the people in this situation actually don’t understand or appreciate the reality of the horrors facing those who’ve been forced into this decision. It’s not pointing out the fault in the mother, but the fault in the thinking of the privileged person.

  49. You’ve misunderstood the purpose behind this post. It’s sympathising with the person who has been forced to make such horrific decisions.

  50. You don’t understand the motivation because you don’t understand the post. It’s not criticising the people in that situation, but sympathising with them.

  51. You have limited literary and comprehension skills if you need an explanation. Time to learn a little more

  52. What a well written piece. Thank you for your efforts.
    I’m sad to see people who call themselves bloggers though are finding it hard to comprehend. A little more reading, comprehension and training is in order if you don’t understand this amazing post.

  53. Reblogged this on lonerloaner and commented:
    So beautiful……

  54. Dear Author Of This Letter…you got our attention on this subject…but what else can you give us? Surely, expression is your forte…How about you create a rebuttal to this work…within that piece, we may find your real talent.

  55. I stand by my statement. Starting the piece with dear irresponsible migrant mother and ending with all the migrants dead in the water is not something I will agree with. If she is from the UK then she must be educated with the developments in Calais and how their being treated. America is not a perfect country but our citizens have great intentions. You might have misread this piece. Heres a video about Calais, theres a Syrian mother and son in the video. They talk about why they had to leave Syria. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ErIkACoEpis

  56. She isn’t judging. Read it again

  57. You’ve managed to put a sympathetic face on this very political issue happening in our world today. Your delivery was interesting. As a parent, this ‘side’ of the issue, the side of the unbalanced and interrupted life of the children, is heartbreaking.

  58. Yes indeed, that is the writer’s point.

  59. This is powerful. An eye opening post that not only highlights the very real plight of our migrant brothers and sisters, but also indicts our own complicity, our complacency, our apathy. Thank you for your voice.

  60. Pointsoftwo.wordpress.com

  61. Reblogged this on Perhaps yes, perhaps no. Exactly? I don't know. and commented:
    I hope the author does not mind me sharing this. If you have not come across it please do read. It is very powerful writing and the content its self is deep… I end this with a prayer for the suffering of people thrown into such situations to end. Let us all gather and do what we can to actively make a difference- charity, shelter, volunteering, raising awareness through WORDS like the author of this post and not by circulating images that are unlikely to touch hardened hearts that have been desensitized to the endless graphic pictures that appear in the media. Every Little WILL Eventually Help. Take the first step.

  62. This post is criticizing people who criticize the mothers not the mothers who are forced to become refugees

  63. Good read! The ending gave me chills. Very well written.

  64. Thank you, I am a mother, this brought tears to my eyes and soul.

  65. I stand to be corrected but I think one of the points is that those who are privileged are also self righteous. Those who couldn’t possibly begin to fathom these immense struggled are usually the first ones to judge and the last to offer any solutions

  66. Your post does a great job in evoking empathy from the reader. I wonder, though, how reliable empathy is in helping us make practical decisions. See: migrationtrends.wordpress.com

  67. It is an very sarcastic write. It can be misuderstand …as you see.

  68. …and Rahma for your explanation. 🙂

  69. I wish I missed understood it, unfortunately I understood it well enough.

  70. How I hoped she wasn’t.

  71. Hmmm…. Ok, I really didn’t get it then. I thought you were putting down the refugees and mothers… of them…

    I’m glad you have empathy and I appreciate you being clear with me. You are right, there is so very little empathy for what they are going through. The mothers and the children are courageous. They are leaving such extreme danger and rising everything for hope. And only to meet hatred, misunderstanding, and being turned away.

    Thanks for making people aware of the peril.

  72. I think you have definitely misread this piece Dis Cris as it’s a comment on the refugee situation at the moment, from my perspective, from my privileged, safe vantage point. It’s a comment on the judgment passed on ‘migrants’, and I use the term satirically, they are refugees, not migrants, for leaving their homes with their children. The post has nothing to do with America; but it is interesting to note that other bloggers from the U.S. have also perceived it as an attack in them and their culture, perhaps there is a culture of reading everything from an American-centric viewpoint? It’s interesting to note that despite an accurate explanation, you still maintain that it is a judgement of America. There’s probably not much I can do to change that.

  73. I don’t think you understood the post. But that’s literature: open to interpretation. And that’s the danger of writing: not everyone will understand you.

  74. I don’t think you understood the post. But that’s literature: open to interpretation. And that’s the danger of writing: not everyone will understand you.

    Also, I am from the UK, the post has absolutely nothing to do with America or its citizens; believe it or not, everything is not about America.

  75. I don’t think you understood the post. But that’s literature: open to interpretation. And that’s the danger of writing: not everyone will understand you.

  76. I don’t think you understood the post. But that’s literature: open to interpretation. And that’s the danger of writing: not everyone will understand you.

    Thanks for the definitions, I was aware of the differences when I wrote the post. That’s exactly the point though isn’t it? We call them migrants but they’re refugees.

  77. I don’t think I did sit on the fence.

  78. I don’t think you understood the post. But that’s literature: open to interpretation. And that’s the danger of writing: not everyone will understand you. And you definitely didn’t understand.

  79. I don’t have limited literary skills you dolt, “loanerloaner”. I edit other peoples work for a friggin’ living. I write and question and sift in order to gain more understanding. so back off me you silly ********. [edited by UmmRahma]

  80. I don’t think you understood the post. But that’s literature: open to interpretation. And that’s the danger of writing: not everyone will understand you.

    It’s not a “sarcastic write” as you say, it’s a verbal outpouring of what I felt when I thought about what my fellow human beings are going through. You really did misunderstand.

  81. I don’t think you understood the post. But that’s literature: open to interpretation. And that’s the danger of writing: not everyone will understand you.

  82. I don’t think you understood the post. But that’s literature: open to interpretation. And that’s the danger of writing: not everyone will understand you.

  83. I’m afraid I responded to your post hastily still boiling from reading so many mainstream news reports using the incorrect term of migrant for people fleeing their homes because of war. You are write – your piece is literature and not reporting. And it is a fine piece. Congratulations on being Pressed and I wish you continued success.

  84. You may edit other people’s work for a living, but you have definitely misunderstood this post.

    Please refrain from using profanity on my blog. If you cannot express yourself, using the English language, without resorting to expletives, please refrain from commenting.

  85. Yeah okay, a**hole, **** you too. 🙂

  86. Your post was not so well written and I’m pointing out how so. It’s not profanity that is your problem from my commenting at all. I cleared up with small faced boy what the post intended and I appreciated the feedback. But if you all want to pile on as I defend refugees for real, so be it. SO ****** be your empathy. There are those who only write and some who actually do. do what you do. Freshly pressed means you’re open to wider scrutiny. Cussing means I was mad at how it sounded like you were degrading the mothers and children and refugees. That’s all. If you gotta go pray away your hearing because I said the f-word… my my… but you need a better back bone.

  87. Reblogged this on Francette's blog and commented:
    I don’t usually reblog posts but this one is quite disturbing!
    I don’t really know what to think of it! It has been on my mind all weekend since I found it on my WordPress Reader. Not sure I get the point 🙁

  88. Oh I see with all the god and christian stuff in the responses now that you’re religious and offended by cussing. LOL.

    We can both care just as much about the problems… and you need to edit me for what really? God and me are way cool. God doesn’t require your edits. But I get it. You’re in competition with something which makes your charity seem… like a cause… a purpose… you need your empathy for you… not really those you wrote about.

    You will get much praise from your own kind. best of luck with adversity or really helping those in need.

  89. I wrote that reply/comment to the author smallfacedboy, I realize ultimately, but I do appreciate your reply… clarification of intention and feedback. This site however is a tad bit too religiously based for my blood and can’t handle good old fashioned cussing so see ya on the blog-o-sphere maybe…

    best wishes.

  90. The point is the writer is sympathising with the person who has been forced to make such horrific decisions. And the sarcasm in this poem is on behalf of all those who talk the talk but never walk the walk. Showing us how others are so quick to judge, but until you have walked in those shoes, don’t you dare, don’t you dare judge others..

  91. The point is the writer is sympathising with the person who has been forced to make such horrific decisions. And the sarcasm in this poem is on behalf of all those who talk the talk but never walk the walk. Showing us how others are so quick to judge, but until you have walked in those shoes, don’t you dare, don’t you dare judge others..

  92. The point is the writer is sympathising with the person who has been forced to make such horrific decisions. And the sarcasm in this poem is on behalf of all those who talk the talk but never walk the walk. Showing us how others are so quick to judge, but until you have walked in those shoes, don’t you dare, don’t you dare judge others..

  93. Have you real experience with refugees? immigrants? or is this just a creative work, if I may ask you your inspiration?

  94. Love more that will defuse some pain and trouble.

  95. Collection of the words and pattern of description was stunning. One can easily be absorbed while reading this. Personly I compare it with a small child who was founded on shores of turkey thats why it made me sad.

  96. nice peace…i remember my mother

  97. Congratulations on being Freshly Pressed. Richly deserved! ~Terri

  98. A part of literature is reading between the lines, you know 😉 and that’s what most of people don’t do and get easily manipulated. And I’m definitely not one of those.
    (Don’t take it as an offense, I don’t even know you! I was just writing my opinion on something I read).

  99. I loved every bit of it. A true mother will do anything so that her children can have a better life. Everyone is not given the same circumstances. Some are not as fortunate as others which makes it very easy for those that are to quickly judge. This really broke my heart as there are people truly dealing with this. Good post!

  100. A part of literature is reading between the lines, you know 😉 and that’s what most of people don’t do and get easily manipulated. And I’m definitely not one of those. (Don’t take my words as an offense. I was just writing my opinion on something I read).

  101. Amazing, what a brilliant post!

  102. As literature, a very well written piece!

  103. I’m not offended. It’s precisely reading between the lines that tells you what I was striving for.

  104. Not to disturb you any further, but I thought about my rudeness to you which comes from my impatience and a double standard I was using. My apologies for coming at you like that.

    I should have merely said that your writing would be stringer from a perspective of actual empathy, rather than writing from cynicism in order to get to the empathy. I was arrogant and unkind to you and your readers. You don’t have to publish this comment of course, but I don’t want you to carry the negativity of my previous behavior.

  105. Actually, it has nothing to with Christianity or God.

    If you cannot express yourself without using profanities then it speaks volumes about your grasp of language and ability to use it effectively. I don’t usually comment on my blog nor do I edit negative comments, but your use of language was uncalled for. My editing has nothing to do with my religion – I’m Muslim by the way – but everything to do with the fact that I’d rather it didn’t appear on my site.

  106. Your ability to use the English language leaves much to be desired.

  107. You have written this piece not understanding that sometimes refugees have NO other way but death or start moving. A compass check is in order. That’s my 2 cents for u. Learn more. Think and then write please…

  108. Like so many others before you, you haven’t understood the satire, you haven’t understood the post.

  109. Yes, UmmRahma… I have agreed with your assessment of my use (or rather abuse) of language on your blog as well apologized.

    I am hasty with organized religion, and new to your blog, and as a stranger I was totally rude. So, thank you for helping curb my fury which was uncalled for when we both actually want to defend the lives of people.

  110. I have done better than this with my words… but no need to prove this to you or go on. peace.

  111. Thanks for the support Terri.

  112. Ja. I guess I’m just a dumb researcher, writer and engineer like many others. I’ll take that lump. Compass correction. I’ve done mine…What about u?

  113. Incredible – thank you

  114. No one called you dumb. You just didn’t understand the post.

  115. You’re welcome. Looking forward to more of your excellent writing. ~Terri

  116. Okay, I understand what you’re telling me, but this piece wasn’t effective. The migrant mother was looked down upon and she wasn’t even able to defend herself, she just died at the end. If she were helpless and weak, she would have stayed in her war torn country and let anyone take her for the reaping. But she decided to fight for her children and test faith. The story had no purpose. Background and culture might be affecting how I understand this writing but its affecting your perspective, as well. They’re migrants, the human race is constantly moving. There is a higher Chinese population in America because of their silent war with the Chinese government, does that mean their refugees? Thats just a word, we might not all look the same but we are cut from the same cloth. Im not one to judge someone for their writing but if your intention is to really uplift the migrant population then thank you for clearing it up in the comment section. Hahaha! Just to clear things up since you didn’t add any words that would direct this to a certain region or country, I commented through my viewpoint. I was not assuming that your writing was an attack because I can go to a local high school and practically visit the world for how diverse the student population is. Next time you want to make a statement make sure you’re clear with your intentions so you could write more direct sentences. You should come visit San Diego, if you are muslim, we have a lot of great temples. Cheers. x)

  117. i have read this many times. moving. heartbreaking. xx

  118. Thank you for this post, it was beautifully written and I felt the emotion, you’re very talented Masha’Allah.

  119. Muslims don’t worship in temples.

    And I reiterate, you really didn’t understand.

  120. Thank you for the support.

  121. It’s a big subject, which comes down to unfair horrible people, making people feel forced, and even worse: to children!!

  122. Wow. This is amazing. Powerful, well written and tears me up again when I think of the state of the world, today.

  123. One of the most powerful things I have read, thank you.

  124. Sorry Katherine. I apologise for being rude or insulting you. I just found it very strange that you didn’t comprehend the piece. Once again apologies.

  125. Oh I apologize for my ignorance, where do muslims worship? And I don’t want to recapitulate my statement so I’ll just say that I feel sad you weren’t able to get across what your intentions were. I’m a vocal performance major with a focus in opera studies and I thrive through feedback and learning from what people understood from my performance. With that feedback I learn and develop a second skin, where I can direct the changes for the audience to better connect with the story. I secretly hoped you were more pliable with discussing and developing your work but it seems your austere demeanor is preventing us from doing so. I do commend you for your about page, I always try and see a positive in an experience and your about page is beautiful, I wish you had introduced more of your spoken “compassion” and “mercy” in this piece but as I said, you are very stiff. Lastly, It breaks my heart that an author would degrade and insult his/her audience. It takes courage to comment on someones work and usually the author would love that connection, but somehow, you choose to execrate the comments you don’t prefer. Hopefully you learned something from this experience because I surely have. Thank you for your time. God Bless. x) P.S. I fully understand this piece, and your character, as well. x)

  126. Stunningly well done.

  127. “There you are: washed up on the shore, wet and bloated. There are your children peacefully blue from the icy lips of the water. I can’t hear you, but there you all are.” Powerful! Hard to understand indeed. Desperation? This is the reality of so many all over the planet. I ask myself constantly: what would I have done?

  128. This was very well written; I like your style. It brought me to tears.

  129. This hurts so much. Just like when reality slaps you on your privileged little cheek and says “Stop whining. Everyone’s got problems. The world does not revolve around you.”

  130. Hi, I read your post because it was interesting. I did understand the sarcasm, right!? I thought possibly that many people don’t even care or understand why people would flee a terrible situation. I do understand. It was painful that maybe people don’t get it. I have written a book on global matters, fictional and spent three years on it. I do get it more than you know. Thanks. I’m glad for your concern and time.

  131. And I don’t for one minute think it’s about America. That’s not how I roll.

  132. Wow…this was powerful!

  133. I did in fact understand the piece, loner loaner. I simply posed the questions anyway. Because I’m a fan of good satire– not mediocre satire. And because I think the current issues regarding refugees globally should be handled not with humor or misleading satire but with pure and direct empathy. The author has made it clear she doesn’t bother explaining her writing and it is open to interpretation while also saying many of us obviously didn’t get it. She is not required to explain or consider unrequested critiques. I was rude to her and she was fair to me.

    So I apologize for being rude to you as well.

    Thank you for your apologies. But really none are necessary.

  134. Reblogged this on Casmir Obioha and commented:
    This is interesting

  135. I was almost angry when I started reading this article. But by the third paragraph I got the point you were trying to make, I hope anyway. Trying to represent humanity? Trying to represent the secret thoughts of people? wrote your actual feelings? I don’t know but it was nevertheless an interesting read!

  136. You have right, I don’t really understand at the first … I expected somehting that resolve the tension of this write … maybe If you finished this letter with the answer of that judged mother …

  137. Totally agree with you…i am surprised how can a woman be so ignorant…wasting so much energy and time on a post with no clue wats actually happening around you.

  138. oh my got was so angry with the post when i started reading it that…then read it again…beautifully written…pls ignore my earlier comment

  139. What an intriguing way to make your point. Nice job balancing that American ignorant voice and some truly captivating imagery. Poignant stuff. 🙂

  140. The voice isn’t American. Thanks for the comment

  141. I fell in love with this as soon as it began.

  142. Thank you for the clarification

  143. Tears!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  144. Yes, I was angry reading this, but it turns into a powerful message. All that we take for granted is missing in these lives. Many are horrified and want to help, while others whine and complain.”oh, who is going to help me?” They at least have a roof over their heads and food. These are not migrants, these are people taking refuge wherever they can, escaping horrifying conditions. It is heartbreaking and I wonder how well any of us would hold up in a similar situation!

  145. Wow! Thank you for bringing this plight into the light

  146. You could have written this post without satire involving dead people who perished under the most trying conditions. Writing just anything, even if it’s hurtful of others is NOT right and especially for those who cannot speak for themselves anymore on Earth.That was my point and yes I understood your post. Plz stop being so condescending of others. You can discuss issues without doing that, right? Good. Plz do so. That would be a simple request from a global citizen to another.

  147. Well written on a fearful topic

  148. Such an amazing way to express your thoughts! What an irony.

    But really, I feel sorry for all the mothers (parents in general) who had to do all those shits because of those evil officials who instead of protecting their people damaged and kill them in a way no one could ever imagine. :(( SMH

  149. I haven’t seen sarcasm used as tool so efficiently. I had tears in my eyes as I finished reading the piece

  150. I don’t know what is worth, taking all those risks for a supposed better life or the situation at their home being so bad it is worth taking those risks…

  151. The whole point of satire is that it holds a mirror up to reality to bring attention to a situation. It’s an exceptionally powerful tool when used correctly, as it has been here.

    When Jonathan Swift first wrote ‘A Modest Proposal’, some people didn’t get it and thought he was genuinely advocating the eating of babies. Some of the responses here remind me of that.

  152. Reblogged this on Splattered Brains and commented:
    The inequalities of human existence captured on paper.

  153. Very thought provoking and beautiful, every time I read something like this, it inspires a great fury at the ignorance of people who accuse migrants fleeing from wartorn countries of similar things. How do they not understand? How do they not cry that they feel like they cannot do anything to help, however much they donate? How do they not sob with grief at the young lives lost?

    How?

  154. Very well illustrated that we are quick to judge when we don’t understand what others are experiencing.

  155. Of course, we would never say such things out loud. We would never be so callous.
    But, oh, how you challenge us deep down where our prejudices lurk, ever ready to criticize, frown and move on.
    Thank you for taking the risk.

  156. This is really, horrifically true. We should think of these people. Truly well done. It’s very shattering in many ways. We do live in a sheltered world, with our Internet, and everything we have around us. It is not there for hundreds of millions. Really, it’s cliche to say it and cliche to say that, but we have a different world, and those people still are there, thousands of miles away but still living and not living there.

  157. Beautiful and heartbreaking.

  158. Reblogged this on bluemayhem and commented:
    This is so powerful, I feared from reading ahead!

  159. While i appreciate the concern you display for the welfare of the children, I wish to keep you alive to the circumstantial differences apparent either worlds. Women in these places are going through hell. Sometimes the only choice they have is to take a chance with the night or wait for the pain and strife that will surely arrive in the morning. Do not rebuke them from the comfort of a stable government, rather help where you can….

  160. As Kate Coyle said, these people cannot be heard but are saying something, or screaming. These people will not be heard in the future. So we must lift their causes, and make their lives human again.

  161. Very powerful essay, I could hardly see through my tears by the end of it.

  162. Reblogged this on My Journey: and commented:
    This essay is a very powerful piece of writing.
    It is also a chilling reminder that these Mums are just like us, trying to do what is best for their children, in the most dire of circumstances.

  163. God, that’s the best write up I have read this year. Please follow my blog. And keep writing like this. I will also repost.

  164. mind opener. i admit a was really ignorant about this issue before. thanks..

  165. Powerful article – if only the world could hear you…..if only the world could hear and see them….

  166. Awesome writing. Thanks for giving them a voice. We need more writers like you.

  167. I enjoyed your writing, though the subject matter is very sad. Thank you for helping to shine a light on the migrant issue, and our own ignorance and disdain for those in situations we can’t even imagine.

  168. I felt sick as I read this, it is so graphic I wanted to stop, but I forced myself to keep reading because we should know, I should know what is happening out there and this brought it home so well. No-one should turn a blind eye to this.

  169. These days, we’ve flooded migrant problems all over the world. It is appreciated article.

  170. This is very powerful! This is such a complex issue that causes turmoil in the lives of many.

  171. Anyone who can bring our attention to the plight’s of others is appreciated and to be applauded.

  172. Love it, very beautiful and poignant yet powerfully written about something so tragic.

  173. Thank you and bless you.

  174. Reblogged this on Memorabilia and commented:
    Day 2 – know thy neighbors tasks at #blogging101. I’m a couple f days late for the day 2 assignment but I’d read this blog post previously. Oh. my. gosh. I had tears in my eyes when i read this. beautifully written and you should read this. trust me. if you are mother, then definitely, you should read this.

  175. Dear, beautifully written, touched my heart. I’m reblogging this on my site sunayana18.wordpress.com
    I think the real plight of mothers, children and men cannot be captured in words/photos but with your post, i can only imagine how difficult it would be for them.

  176. You really put into perspective the brutal reality of the differences between these two mothers. Another reminder of how harsh humanity can be. Powerful stuff.

  177. This is really touching. The struggles of today sucks. I’ve been blogging for almost a yeAr and hoping that one of these days I’ll make it. Can I reblog this on my two blogs http://www.lifeisablog.com and http://www.iphoneblogging.com ? If so it would be greatly appreciated. If you’d like to connect. Please email me at eddiekeyton@lifeisablog.com – maybe we can guest post on each other’s blogs. Thank you!

  178. My tears fell as I was reading this. It’s so frustrating knowing about mothers and their children desperately need help but nothing I can do :'(

  179. Permission to reblog: granted! Keep writing! Thanks for the kind words.

  180. Too much horrifying account of the plight of refugees. You have painted the whole picture to life through your words. I can see that mother and children running for life and losing their lives in the waters.

  181. It is a very well written piece, but your words are written from the voice of someone who is not directly affected! When you have to seek survival for yourself and your children then you can write!

  182. I don’t think you understood the satire.

  183. Wow. That was really deep. Awesome work.

  184. Migrants go back and fight…why should the world sacrifice lives when you’re all cowards who only seek hand outs, sympathy, and welfare ! The US chose to stand up and fight Hitler and Japan..why the can’t you ???

  185. Wow…very touching. Very well-written.

  186. What an uninformed and unintelligent response. Plenty of Syrians have been fighting back, but there’s a limit to what they can do when they have Assad’s government forces bombing them on one side and also have to contend with ISIS fighters.
    The U.S. ‘chose’ to stand up to Hitler and Japan well after the world did, and only joined the Allied forces following the attack on Pearl Harbour – 2 years after WW2 started – so don’t make out like they’re some kind of exemplar. You also write some guff on your blog about the U.S. saving Iraq, which belies complete ignorance about the region and American involvement there. The U.S. Invaded Iraq in order to secure oil rights there, everything else was circumstantial and served only to underpin their ability to do that. Saving Iraq never came into it.
    These people aren’t migrants, they’re refugees fleeing a situation that they can no longer exist under, just as many Jews did during WW2. Educate yourself before making spurious claims about what people should or shouldn’t do.

  187. You’re entitled to your opinion as am I…too bad your just another idiot…sorry

  188. You probably think kim davis is a hero also

  189. And you obviously have a problem with your grammar. You + are = you’re.

    Unfortunately it’s always better to abstain from commenting when one is so ill-informed about events. Anyway, my post was nothing to do with American foreign policy and everything to do with my own personal response to ridiculous comments about refugees, made online, by those of your ilk.

  190. Ad Hominem attacks, the last refuge of those who lack the intellectual capacity to respond. I note you glossed over the actual details of what I’d written rather than attempting to reply with a counter-argument. That’s because there’s no substance to what you’re saying, only bluster.

    And for the record, I have no idea who Kim Davis is. I’m from the other side of the pond to you. You know, the place where we’re actually dealing with refugees coming to our shores and trying to help them rather than demonise them.

  191. Smallface btw I’m a war vet and l know firsthand the tragedies of war you may be across the pond but if you you would like criticize someone address Israel who refuses to help the refugees after all the world has done for that country. Explain why the hell the jews think they are better than anyone else.

  192. Please explain your satire..i obviously missed something and do enjoy humor

  193. Heart Wrenching.
    ‘There you are: washed up on the shore, wet and bloated. There are your children peacefully blue from the icy lips of the water. I can’t hear you, but there you all are.”

  194. Reblogged this on On The Verge and commented:
    I read this over and over. You should too.

  195. Well written! Really deep and eye-opening on the issue.

  196. The position of the reader, it seemed, is to, at first, be so angry/annoyed with the author berating this struggling mother. I was so uncomfortable with the demeanor.
    As a person who grew up with migrant workers all around me, who I call family, who are family, I was so bitter towards this author.
    Then, it dawned on me. This is not an attack on the people and their desire to find a better life. A safer life. A richer life. The mothers, and their hope to find a place where their children, and hopefully their children’s children, will rise and flourish.
    It’s the exact opposite. And as I realized that, my eyes filled with tears and my heart became so heavy.
    I am so drained.
    I’m sharing this.
    I hope you don’t mind.
    People need to read this.
    Thank you.
    – Tomás

  197. God please let this be ironic – it is isn’t??

  198. If you’re a U.S. War veteran then to be fair you know more about inflicting the tragedies of war on others, because the U.S. hasn’t invaded a country in recent history without it being about cementing monetary gain. The vacuums and instability arising out of Iraq and other places in the area has directly contributed to the refugee crisis that is happening now.

    As for Israel, they serve no one’s purpose but their own and are another monster that the U.S. has helped create and continues to support through millions of dollars of funding daily. They should be taking in refugees but won’t, and they’ll get away with it because they have the backing of the Senate and because of the strength of the Zionist lobby there. If the U.S. stopped funding their terror and stopped using its power of veto to protect Israel in the UN, things would start to change. Instead, scum like Netenyahu work their way before your Senate, humiliate your President, and everyone applauds and loves him for it.

  199. well written! I cried while reading this masterpiece. I hope all the “Irresponsible Migrant Mother” out there can read this so that no more children will suffer and be a victim!

  200. You are not alone… I was still a little confused till I looked at the comments! Irony and sarcasm are not the easiest for me to pick up on!!

  201. I think you’ve misunderstood the post.

  202. Reblogged this on CaramelButterfly and commented:
    words, always get to me than anything.

  203. This was the most gripping post that I have read in some time

  204. Beautiful and powerful 🙂

  205. Thanks – very poignant.

  206. Your lack of compassion for another is soul shattering. You must have had an awfully cushy life to be so indifferent and cruel. Perhaps you’d like to try to walk 5 miles in that mother’s shoes? Perhaps you’d like ro volunteer to fight the war in her place?

  207. Well i was right….syria’s army mow consists of only 5 soldierd if they haven’t deserted

  208. For your info jerk I’m a viet war vet and have had amythimg but a cushy life. I’ve been homeless twice and had to fight to keep a roof over my head and i know hunger well. They choose to run rather tjan fight and want the world to shed blood and die in their place. The sryian army comsists of only as just. reported because they all ran. So please pull your head out of where the sun don’t shine before you attempt to criticize someone next time

  209. Despite anyone’s opinions…This is beautifully written and it is bleeding with cold, hard truth. This is the first blog I’ve read that you’ve written and I am impressed. Thank you.

  210. I work with refugees and asylum seekers and I really appreciate your words. These people are brave and dignified. They deserve our support.

  211. I revisited this post again and scrolling through the comments, it still astounds me how some people are reluctant to comprehend, even after the writer has gone to exhaustive lengths to clarify for those that misunderstood.
    Even those with no reply after she clarified might be so decent as to apologise, agree or at least thank her for the clarification but no, like shrapnel beneath skin, their comments remain as if to say they are far above from having their egos bruised and instead rather leave the remnants of their decay floating around.
    I though bloggers are meant to be people who read, write, comprehend and feel more, alas, it’s turning into another form of erosive social media.

  212. Brilliant delivery. I almost stopped after reading the first few sentences, until I realized I was misreading your message. As a mother my heart was heavy aftee reading this powerful piece. Great work!

  213. Beautifully written! You absolutely deserve being featured on “Freshly Pressed”.

  214. Relentless and well written.

  215. Very powerful writing. Thank you.

  216. Beautifully expressed.

  217. Amazing and very powerful.

  218. Reblogged this on transatlantictransadvocates and commented:
    We must allow the pain and suffering of these desparate people to enter our hearts and minds. And quarreling nations must settle their differences diplomatically rather than taking the EASY OUT of war.

  219. Reblogged this on teachramblings and commented:
    Very moved reading this.

  220. It’s a sad thing that there are mothers out there exactly like the one you have created to satirize. They are normally married to powerful men, and frequent country clubs to drown their souls in Vodka. I happen to know a few, although I’m not sure most of them could go into the depth of thinking about the irresponsible mother like you do. But that is the point now isn’t it?
    Yes, there are too many really brain dead people milling around this earth.

  221. Good analyses. Am not against immigrants but sometimes they endanger their lives and that of. Their children.

  222. I don’t think you understood the post at all.

  223. It is heart-breaking to see videos of people arriving on flimsy boats, soaked to the bone, shivering from cold; then to see them walk for weeks, feet blistering and bloody, but forward always fueled by the hope for a better and safer life for themselves and their children. Thank you for raising awareness of the impossible choices these parents have to make…

  224. May God forgive this wicked generation of people who watch and do nothing, not even prayers

  225. Reblogged this on Inspire Me and commented:
    Weep For Our World

  226. Hello, I’m nominating you for Blogger Recognition Award. Please check here – https://sunayana18.wordpress.com/2015/10/22/awards/

  227. This is a beautiful piece of writing, truly touching. Thank you for sharing

  228. Strong catchy heading, and excellent composition. I’m speechless, thank you.

  229. Touching and very powerful piece.. Beautiful it just made me cry.. We are so blessed with comfortable house and comfortable beds we need to appreciate everything that we have.. I’m so touched by this story .. Poor children and parents who have to go through struggles that are not their fault ..

  230. very well written, made me cry.

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